Hello, everyone. I appreciate you visiting the site and reading my blog; seeing those pretty eyes again is good.
And we are all here again! Another Thank God It’s Friday. 😂❤️
For information’s sake, I write my blog posts every Friday, God willing. I’ll be consistent, amen! 😂🙏🏽
Funny enough, I jumped out of my sleep to write this blog post. I got home from work and went straight to bed to wonderland. Lmaoo. 😂
I also want to thank everyone who read my last blog post, Am I Growing, or Am I Just Getting Older?, and left comments. Apparently, that little change I made to the comments section actually worked and encouraged more people to comment. I’m honestly so grateful and happy that you all can relate to my posts. Y’all make this pretty girl cry. 🥹❤️
It gives me so much ginger and makes me happy to see my little blog growing every day. I’m also thankful that you enjoy reading my posts. Someone even wanted to know if I had more posts, and the answer is YES! 😂 I have over 60 blog posts, so I also added a category menu to the navigation menu. You can now explore the different categories and go through my previous posts.
Now, while approving and responding to comments, I found myself going through some of the older comments I’d received and taking a trip down memory lane. I saw how far this blog has come. I even saw where someone was trolling and insulting me on my own blog. 😂😭 Check the post out if you want the gist! It’s titled Content.
I was also a bit worried about my views because, from Monday until today, there had been little to no activity on my blog. It’s funny how 1k people can view my Snapchat posts without responding or clicking the link, even though I leave the post up for a week. But let me post my ass videos, and everybody suddenly has something to say. 😭😂 Shoot, this life no balance!
Anyway, while I was worrying about my blog views, I decided to do some SEO work on my older posts. That took me on another trip down memory lane, and mehn, I can honestly say I’ve grown.
My early posts showed me how I was still figuring things out. I wrote about my family, friendships, music, work, expenses, habits, and different experiences. My recent posts still carry some of those elements, but I’ve found myself writing more about personal reflections, maturity, emotional openness, boundaries, and personal growth.
Even my writing has evolved. Looking at the punctuation, the way I expressed myself, and how the blog itself has changed, I can see the difference.
Nah, I’m proud of me! From 2020 till now? Haha! 😂❤️
I really hope you all take the time to explore my older posts and enjoy yourselves. Reading through them brought back so many memories and flashbacks. It’s interesting to see the things I was thinking about then and compare them with how I see things now.
Also, I didn’t make the same mistake I made last week by not writing down the points that came to mind. I took them down this time. Lol. Once bitten, twice shy! 😂
Anyway, enough about my blog and my little trip down memory lane. 😂
I don’t really like the word sorry. Maybe that’s a strong way to put it, but hear me out.
I think this has a lot to do with my personal experiences growing up. I remember always apologising to my mum in different situations, even when I wasn’t actually sorry.
Now, when someone apologises to me, I don’t necessarily want to accept the apology and move on. I’d rather understand the reason behind their action.
Is that silly? 😂
Because, for me, if I understand why you did something and it happens again, I might not be as upset because I already understand where you’re coming from. And if I don’t understand your reason, how am I supposed to make sense of what happened?
You see what I mean?
But if I genuinely can’t understand or wrap my head around your actions, hearing you say sorry might even annoy me more. Why? Because sometimes, it feels like you’re just saying it to shut me up so we can move on from the conversation.
I’d rather have the tough conversations.
Growing up with my mum taught me that. Lmaoo. 😂
It’s so funny because I used to hate it when my mum would say she didn’t need me to say sorry; she wanted to understand my reasoning. Back then, I didn’t necessarily understand why she kept asking me to explain myself when I’d already apologised.
But now? I completely understand where she was coming from.
Anyone can say sorry. It’s such an easy word to say. 😂 But is saying sorry really what I want to hear?
I think this is one of the reasons people keep repeating certain behaviours. They do something wrong, say sorry, and expect everything to be settled. Some people even get upset when you’re still hurt after they’ve apologised.
And I’m always wondering, how exactly is the word sorry supposed to make me feel better? Does it have some kind of magic healing power? 😭😂
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying apologies are unnecessary. I just think an apology should mean more than saying a word and expecting the other person to move on.
For me, I’d rather you take accountability and explain your actions. A thought must have gone through your mind before you did whatever it is that has now led you to apologise. So, I’d like to understand what that thought process was.
What made you do it? What were you thinking? Did you consider how your actions might affect me?
I want you to acknowledge what happened and take responsibility for it.
So, nah,Cheenaa is not a sorry person. 😂 I’m more of an accountability person.
And no, I’m not saying you should defend your actions or come up with excuses. I know that explaining yourself can sometimes come across as defending what you did, depending on how you communicate it.
People might even say you’re not remorseful because you keep explaining yourself instead of simply apologising.
But, at the same time, saying sorry doesn’t automatically mean you’re remorseful either. You can say the word without genuinely understanding the impact of what you’ve done.
For me, there’s a difference between saying sorry because you want the conversation to end and taking responsibility because you understand that your actions affected someone.
That’s my take, sha. 😂❤️
But I’d genuinely love to hear your opinions.
Do you think saying sorry is enough, or do you also need an explanation and accountability before you can move on?
Do you prefer someone who apologises immediately, or someone who is willing to have the uncomfortable conversation and explain their actions?
Let me know what you think in the comments. I’m open to hearing different perspectives. ❤️
Thank you all for reading to this point. I appreciate you!
And please, like the post if you could relate, leave a comment, and share your thoughts with me.
It’s China not Chinese ❤️🖤💜